Helping Children Feel Safe After a Tragic Event
Children often take emotional cues from the adults around them. Adults do not need to hide every emotion, but they should try to communicate in a calm and reassuring way.
Let children see that sadness, concern and fear are natural responses. At the same time, avoid placing them in a position where they feel responsible for comforting or caring for an overwhelmed adult.
Limit Repeated Media Exposure
Continuous news coverage, graphic images and repeated videos can increase fear and anxiety.
Young children may believe that an event shown repeatedly is happening again each time. Monitor television, social media and online content, and avoid keeping distressing coverage running in the background.
Begin With What They Know
Ask children what they have heard and what they understand.
This gives you an opportunity to correct misinformation and respond to the specific concerns they already have. Avoid sharing more detail than the child is requesting or developmentally prepared to understand.
Tell the Truth
Children deserve honest information from trusted adults.
Use clear, age-appropriate language. It is okay to say that you do not know the answer to a question. Reassure children that they can return with more questions later.
Talk About Safety Without Making Promises
Adults cannot promise that nothing bad will ever happen.
You can explain that many tragic events are rare and that families, schools, first responders and communities take steps to protect people.
Discuss practical safety plans when appropriate. Knowing where to go, whom to call or how adults will respond can help children feel more secure.
Expect Different Responses
A child may appear uninterested, become fearful, ask repeated questions, experience sleep difficulties or complain of physical symptoms.
Responses vary based on age, personality, previous losses, personal connection to the event and exposure to information.
Continue observing the child over time and seek professional guidance when reactions become persistent, severe or disruptive.